Map the current routine
Record schooling, medical needs, daily care, transport, activities and the support network. Distinguish the present arrangement from the arrangement you are asking to create.
Keep communication measured
Where safe and appropriate, communication about a child should remain factual, timely and focused on logistics. Avoid involving the child in legal strategy or pressuring them to carry messages.
- Keep existing orders and written arrangements available.
- Record material incidents accurately and without embellishment.
- Tell counsel immediately about any safety concern.
Propose workable terms
A proposal should address ordinary weeks, holidays, communication, travel, school decisions, healthcare and a method for handling changes. Practical specificity can reduce later conflict.